Parents be brave. Just because one family has an entertainer it doesn't mean you all have to. If your child is under 3 years old and the friends attending the same age and the numbers few, 5 or 6 guests, then try and do it yourself. Well known songs, 2 or 3 simple games and food they enjoy at that age is enough. A special cake with candles is the climax for all children. Call me for advice if you have doubts and it will be given freely and free.

In my May blog I talk about two sisters who attended a party and how the older child had been told to look after her younger sibling by holding her hand throughout the party. That blog is also a tip.

If the birthday child is under six-years-old, a lunchtime party is perfect, between 11.00 and 14.00 hours; 11.00 to 13.00 or 11.30 to 13.30 are ideal times. It is a regular mealtime so the guests will eat well. Morning also benefits because there is not enough time before the party for the birthday child to become over-excited and possibly tearful before or when the party begins. And, I think, more importantly, there will be time after the party to reflect on the excitement and to open some of the birthday presents and appreciate them. Late afternoon parties for this age group often means bath, story and sleep without their being able to relive the fun of the day.

I cannot stress enough that a young child’s party should be as simple as possible. Colourful and fun – yes, but not overcomplicated. Up to the age of seven years children like unfussy foods, cucumber and carrot sticks, cherry tomatoes, grapes and other colourful fruits when in season. Colour is the essence that is needed to draw children to the party table, add a colourful tablecloth and plates. Sandwiches should be the usual favourites and cut into shapes or triangles without the crusts. Not too many sweet items because the special cake is what most of the children will be looking forward to eating. Catering is expensive so if a parent has the time and family or employed support try and do it yourself. Your child will love to help so get them mixing up a mixture for fairy cakes or biscuits and let them decorate the food when cooked and cooled. It is their party and preparation and expectation all adds to the excitement. However, do not let them become over excited and exhausted before the big day.

A shared party works well if the parents and children are very good friends. Otherwise, tension and frustration can become apparent.